I ended my Mother’s Day 2021 with a sleepover with my girls.
There’s something about being close enough to hear my babies breathe that touches the deepest parts of my being.
These two beautiful girls have made me a mother. Moment after moment, day after day, they have, unknowingly, crafted and refined who I am. I’m eternally grateful.
I hope your kids bring a sense of grace and gratefulness to you as well.
Happy belated Mother’s Day to you 🙂
Being a backup driver, babysitter, speaker – being a backup anything – requires almost as much preparedness and mental energy as being the main one. The time and energy differential begins when you know you’re not needed anymore – you won’t have to drive there, watch her, speak there.
As a backup, the time still needs to be reserved and the activity planned and prepared for as if you will be needed.
We volunteer to be a backup thinking it’s not that big of a commitment. Truthfully, it requires almost the same effort to be a backup as it does to be the main squeeze.
Choose wisely for what you’ll “be a backup.”
“Mama, I’m missing something inside of me. Something doesn’t feel right.”
The mother in me immediately calculated how long it had been since dinner – not long. Following the dinner calculation was an immediate flood of maternal nurse thoughts – is her stomach off? Dehydration? Too much trampoline jumping on her joints?
I was mid-thought when she threw her arms around me, “I know what’s missing inside of me. Hugging you.”
How beautiful to be that in tune to her needs.
How beautiful to reach out to have those needs met without hesitation.
We all have much to learn from the young lives around us.
If you can visualize the bad, you can visualize the good.
A lot of us spend our days picturing the worst outcome…
- What if I get out the door late to work on Monday morning
- What if I get stuck in traffic on the way to pick up my kid from daycare
- What if I spill coffee on my shirt
- What if I don’t complete this project by the deadline
Add yours to the list.
We could just as easily picture the good of all of these though…
- I’ll get out the door to make it in perfect time to the office
- Traffic will buzz right along while I go to get Suzie from daycare
- I’m such a meticulous eater
- I’m going to get this project done well before the deadline
It takes the same effort to imagine the good as it does the bad. I wonder if we’d have better outcomes if we spent more time on the good though. I think we might.
I found my dog (more on him later) in the trash yesterday. Apparently he has a thing for beet peels and popcorn. I think he was disappointed in his findings, carnivore that he is, but he couldn’t help but snitch them anyway. Perhaps it was the color or shape that won him over.
Sometimes opportunities look exciting and wonderful but after we get into them we realize it wasn’t really our thing. Often we stay stuck to these opportunities because of guilt, shame, or reputation. It’s not a win for anyone. It’s okay if beet peels and popcorn aren’t your thing. Just be honest with yourself and others about it.
It has been almost two years since I’ve written here, or even been on social media. It’s hard to believe that much time has passed. I suppose I might be considered “out of touch.” However, I find that I’m much more in touch than I’ve ever been…with myself, those I love, my purpose, my moments, and my kids.
I’m about to embark on a journey of growing every more connected and present while re-engaging with the broader world here. I’m not sure how it’ll go, and I’ve been putting it off for that very reason. But it’s time and here I am.
A lot has happened in my life these last two years that I’m sure will make its way into future posts.
A lot has happened for you in the last two years too. I hope you’ve grown and loved and shared in extraordinary ways. If you haven’t, why not?
I’m looking forward to being on the journey again with you.
The longer I live the more I realize how few people are emotionally intelligent.
Emotionally driven, emotionally charged – most people. Emotionally intelligent – few and far between.
People think they’re emotionally intelligent, but when I’ve seen them during intense times, crucible moments and high emotion circumstances, they’re 100% emotionally responsive.
Next time you’re in a high-emotion situation, see if you can have full presence of what everyone might be thinking and feeling in the circumstance and communicate objectively.
I’m an ambivert, both introverted and extraverted. When it comes to recharging, I need quiet time away from people and crowds. It has taken me years to find a balance and longer still to know how to maintain this delicate balance.
Recently I was in need of quiet time and blocked time off for it. All was good until…
Until people in our life have unexpected and urgent needs and sometimes we suck it up for another day, or two, or ten and realize that helping them sort their junk is more necessary than getting all the recharge we need.
I hope you know what you need to maintain the best you. I hope you figure out how to recharge when life is easy and your schedule is in your control, and when days are crazy and time and people aren’t in your control.
I meant well, but I made a careless comment about wanting a friend to attend a baby shower so she could help with games. (I thought she would rock out the games whereas I am about a 1 on a scale of 0-10 on game prep for festive occasions.)
This would have all been fine except she’s a friend currently without kids and it didn’t even cross my mind that a baby shower might be the last place on earth she’d want to find herself.
Here’s when you know you have a real friend.
They tell you you’re off your rocker and they don’t want to be near a baby shower at this point in their life.
Right there. Right then. Straight up.
She didn’t go a sulk in my thoughtless comment and get bitter, she just said what she felt. Right there. Right then. Straight up.
Hope you have a friend as real and honest as this. They’re hard to find and very worth keeping. xoxo
What if someone pegs you as something you’re not?
They will. Don’t worry about it.