Being a backup driver, babysitter, speaker – being a backup anything – requires almost as much preparedness and mental energy as being the main one. The time and energy differential begins when you know you’re not needed anymore – you won’t have to drive there, watch her, speak there.
As a backup, the time still needs to be reserved and the activity planned and prepared for as if you will be needed.
We volunteer to be a backup thinking it’s not that big of a commitment. Truthfully, it requires almost the same effort to be a backup as it does to be the main squeeze.
Choose wisely for what you’ll “be a backup.”