The longer I live the more I realize how few people are emotionally intelligent.
Emotionally driven, emotionally charged – most people. Emotionally intelligent – few and far between.
People think they’re emotionally intelligent, but when I’ve seen them during intense times, crucible moments and high emotion circumstances, they’re 100% emotionally responsive.
Next time you’re in a high-emotion situation, see if you can have full presence of what everyone might be thinking and feeling in the circumstance and communicate objectively.
I went to a conference recently and on the way home I was going through a list of things I wanted to implement from the talking points.
I heard myself say, “that works for him, but I’m going to need to change it such and so and then I think that will work great for me.”
It’s absolutely incredible how we can listen to someone with a decade of EXPERTISE on a matter – literally the best on the face of the earth – and walk away and decide we know better. I did it!
Thankfully, I caught myself and decided to do it his way first until there was conclusive evidence that it was terrible for my life, but seriously, it was that simple for me to override his decades of experience, wisdom, and research because of, well, probably my ego.
Be careful. We miss out on a lot because of that goofy ego of ours.