The longer I live the more I realize how few people are emotionally intelligent.
Emotionally driven, emotionally charged – most people. Emotionally intelligent – few and far between.
People think they’re emotionally intelligent, but when I’ve seen them during intense times, crucible moments and high emotion circumstances, they’re 100% emotionally responsive.
Next time you’re in a high-emotion situation, see if you can have full presence of what everyone might be thinking and feeling in the circumstance and communicate objectively.
I’m an ambivert, both introverted and extraverted. When it comes to recharging, I need quiet time away from people and crowds. It has taken me years to find a balance and longer still to know how to maintain this delicate balance.
Recently I was in need of quiet time and blocked time off for it. All was good until…
Until people in our life have unexpected and urgent needs and sometimes we suck it up for another day, or two, or ten and realize that helping them sort their junk is more necessary than getting all the recharge we need.
I hope you know what you need to maintain the best you. I hope you figure out how to recharge when life is easy and your schedule is in your control, and when days are crazy and time and people aren’t in your control.
I meant well, but I made a careless comment about wanting a friend to attend a baby shower so she could help with games. (I thought she would rock out the games whereas I am about a 1 on a scale of 0-10 on game prep for festive occasions.)
This would have all been fine except she’s a friend currently without kids and it didn’t even cross my mind that a baby shower might be the last place on earth she’d want to find herself.
Here’s when you know you have a real friend.
They tell you you’re off your rocker and they don’t want to be near a baby shower at this point in their life.
Right there. Right then. Straight up.
She didn’t go a sulk in my thoughtless comment and get bitter, she just said what she felt. Right there. Right then. Straight up.
Hope you have a friend as real and honest as this. They’re hard to find and very worth keeping. xoxo
What if someone pegs you as something you’re not?
They will. Don’t worry about it.
From my 3 year old, to my husband, to my mentor, to my mastermind, to my Papa, to a podcaster – I still have a lot to learn.
The call to remain teachable throughout our life is imperative.
Have you ever noticed the most lovely elderly man or woman is the most curious about life?
Be where you are.
The older I get the more I realize the profound impact of this.
The past beckons us to cogitate, regret, berate, and stew on what could have been if only, while focus on the future often creates anxiety, worry and nervous energy about what if.
Being present mitigates all of those emotions because being with the exact moment doesn’t hold those emotions. It just IS.
How many present moments do we rob of their fullness because we linger in the past or push for the future?
When it comes to parenting, days, weeks and even months can pass ineffectively executing some tactic or technique of education, or behavioral correction, with no manifestation of change in our child.
Why? Why are we so slow to consider it might be our misguidance, misinformation, misalignment that perpetuates our child’s rut?
On my home front, in the past I spent way more time asking myself, “how is she doing with _______?” when I should have been asking more, “how is she responding to the guidance, words, instruction, corrections, or suggestions I’m offering?”
As soon as I started asking the later, I realized how out of step I was on some things. No wonder she wasn’t getting it!
The next natural question was, “what might I do differently that could help her overcome this?”
Disclaimer: These questions are not the cure-all, but it surely accelerated things toward growth in our world. Best wishes with it!