Business · Soul thoughts · Time

Recharging regardless

I’m an ambivert, both introverted and extraverted. When it comes to recharging, I need quiet time away from people and crowds. It has taken me years to find a balance and longer still to know how to maintain this delicate balance.

Recently I was in need of quiet time and blocked time off for it. All was good until…

Until people in our life have unexpected and urgent needs and sometimes we suck it up for another day, or two, or ten and realize that helping them sort their junk is more necessary than getting all the recharge we need.

I hope you know what you need to maintain the best you. I hope you figure out how to recharge when life is easy and your schedule is in your control, and when days are crazy and time and people aren’t in your control. 

Just for the heck of it · Soul thoughts

Did I just say that?

I meant well, but I made a careless comment about wanting a friend to attend a baby shower so she could help with games. (I thought she would rock out the games whereas I am about a 1 on a scale of 0-10 on game prep for festive occasions.)

This would have all been fine except she’s a friend currently without kids and it didn’t even cross my mind that a baby shower might be the last place on earth she’d want to find herself.

Here’s when you know you have a real friend.

They tell you you’re off your rocker and they don’t want to be near a baby shower at this point in their life.

Right there. Right then. Straight up.

She didn’t go a sulk in my thoughtless comment and get bitter, she just said what she felt. Right there. Right then. Straight up.

Hope you have a friend as real and honest as this. They’re hard to find and very worth keeping. xoxo

Business · Soul thoughts · Time

Be where you are

Be where you are.

The older I get the more I realize the profound impact of this.

The past beckons us to cogitate, regret, berate, and stew on what could have been if only, while focus on the future often creates anxiety, worry and nervous energy about what if.

Being present mitigates all of those emotions because being with the exact moment doesn’t hold those emotions. It just IS.

How many present moments do we rob of their fullness because we linger in the past or  push for the future? 

family · Soul thoughts

That’s not working.

When it comes to parenting, days, weeks and even months can pass ineffectively executing some tactic or technique of education, or behavioral correction, with no manifestation of change in our child.

Why? Why are we so slow to consider it might be our misguidance, misinformation, misalignment that perpetuates our child’s rut?

On my home front, in the past I spent way more time asking myself, “how is she doing with _______?” when I should have been asking more, “how is she responding to the guidance, words, instruction, corrections, or suggestions I’m offering?”

As soon as I started asking the later, I realized how out of step I was on some things. No wonder she wasn’t getting it!

The next natural question was, “what might I do differently that could help her overcome this?”


Disclaimer: These questions are not the cure-all, but it surely accelerated things toward growth in our world. Best wishes with it! 

Business · Soul thoughts

“We need cheerleaders!”

I received this text message and loved it. I loved it. It was the added emphasis from a conversation the day before when my friend mentioned that we needed cheerleaders on our collaborative project.

Only a day before I had mentioned in another conversation that I deeply appreciate people who are supportive and encouraging. They don’t have to be on the exact journey, they don’t have to know what I know, they don’t have to be my teammate, co-worker, advisor or mentor. Just BEING who they are and cheering me on my journey is such a gift.

Which reminds me. Who needs you as a cheerleader? Do one of your kids need you to be an extra excitable cheerleader for them today? Spouse? Friends? Co-workers?

We have a shortage of cheerleaders in the world and it’s something we’re all capable of!

Business · Fitness · Soul thoughts

Crank up the intensity

All it takes is a decision if you want to crank up the intensity in any area of your life; health, relationships, job etc.

Saturday morning I decided to increase the intensity of my workouts. That’s it. Just a decision.

That decision came because I wasn’t happy with my workouts anymore. What aren’t you happy with anymore? What needs to be amped up?

Business · Character · Soul thoughts

Look at yourself first

If you see things happening around you that you don’t like, whether with your spouse, kids, co-workers or teammates, look first at self.

We impact the people around us. A lot.

If you don’t like the words your kids use or the attitude of your team members – look at your own words and attitudes. Usually, we’re displaying the exact behavior we despise in others.

I know you want to push off that last statement. Don’t. Brave the truth.