Business · Character · Soul thoughts · Time

Challenged and Victorious!

This past week was challenging and it made me grateful for the years of dedication to growing myself as a person.

Day by day, week by week, maybe even month by month, our personal growth might not be that noticeable. Incremental change day after day doesn’t look like much in the short term, but year by year we can look back at ourselves and see the leaps and bounds we’ve made.

Someone might ask if I was stressed this week. No, not really. But THAT is just it. Six months ago I would have flown off the handle several times. A year or two ago I would have lost my marbles completely. This past week I got a lot of practice keeping stress out of my veins. (And doesn’t it just feel like it’s in our veins when it gets in?!) And I DID keep it out!

I know how to identify triggers that set me off.
I know how to identify how I feel in my body.
I know how to sort through feelings.
I know how to kindly dismiss feelings after I’ve learned from them.
I know how to take care of myself during times of distress, discouragement, confusion, stress, frustration, disappointment, etc.
I know how to redirect my thoughts.
I know how to regain perspective on life when things get wonky.

Will I remember to deploy these things all the time and come out a stress-less victor? Nope, but I’m getting better every day.

I hope you are too. ❤

Business · Soul thoughts

Hokey Pokey Struggles

You put your right foot in
You take your right foot out
You put your right foot in
And you shake it all about
You do the hokey pokey
And you turn yourself around
That’s what it’s all about

And so it goes.

This song bothered me as a child because I couldn’t figure out how the front of me got dubbed “in” and behind me got dubbed “out.”

“Put my right foot in where?” I would say. (I’m going out on a limb here, but am confident I am not the only one who experienced this confusion.)

Then someone said – Put your right foot in THE CIRCLE! Great! (If there’s a circle.)

There are just things that don’t quite fit, but they’re close enough. The hokey pokey prepositions are one of those things.

Business · Soul thoughts

I get a real kick out of people.

In particular, I’ve had some recent experiences with insurance agents that have left me smiling. (And confused.)

How often does someone get homeowner’s insurance in their lifetime? On the high end, maybe 10 times, maybe. For most of America, it’s a few times. Ever.

Needless to say, the general public is not the most versed in acquiring such a service or knowing exactly what steps to take. This should be obvious based on the national stats of how infrequently we make this setup transaction but I digress.

I have to remind myself when handling customer service concerns, and we’re all in “customer” service of sorts, that I’m familiar with my systems and processes and others aren’t so much. Communicate accordingly. Don’t assume, ask questions to clarify, and be liberal with the phrases like, “so our next steps are,” and, “here’s what we need to do next.”

This applies to professional and personal interactions.

Business · Character · Soul thoughts

“Whatever works.”

I heard someone use this phrase recently.

It’s such a complacent statement (in one sense).

I’m more keen on the idea of whatever is terrific! Whatever is efficient! Whatever is effective! Whatever is helpful!

Whatever works? Ugh. Is that our standard nowadays?

Business · Soul thoughts

Fostering interests

I’m taking my daughter on a field trip to the local animal hospital.

She loves animals, and unexpectedly, has a magnetism to their ailments. I started to question the tenor around our house when every stuffed animal and baby doll was ALWAYS ill and needing medical attention then I realized that she’s seemingly wired for care-taking and it’s not fun to take care of someone who is healthy. Hence the ill “kids” and animals.

So we will nurture this side of her and see if anything more comes of it.

It’s easy to foster a spark in others.

Do we foster the sparks we know in ourselves though?

I’m guilty. There are a couple things that spark my soul that I haven’t nurtured. And why not? Probably the same reasons you haven’t nurtured the things that spark your soul that have remained dormant.

That’s about to change for me, and I hope it is for you too.

Business · Soul thoughts · Time

It matters but it’s not a priority.

The more refined we’re looking to make our life, the bigger the goals and dreams, the more we’re going to have to parse out our priorities.

There are so many things that matter! And matter to us! And seriously not enough hours in the day!

It’s important to realize that something or someone can matter to us, but they don’t have to be a time or energy commitment.

Business · Soul thoughts · Time

Look back in the past only long enough…

Look back in the past only long enough to learn from that situation, conversation or friendship. Don’t leave the door open for hours when you need only minutes to take the best lessons.

Regret feels gross.

It happens. We all do things we regret, but dwelling there? That’s for amateurs.

Open the door of regret, take a few strategic minutes to learn from your experience then get outta dodge.

Soul thoughts

My Mama didn’t teach me that

My Mama didn’t teach me to dislike my body.

She didn’t teach me to look at various body parts and pinch and pull and poke.

She didn’t teach me to call out certain areas of my body in a mirror and say unkind things about “those” areas.

She didn’t teach me to look down at my body and make faces of rebuke.

She didn’t teach me to pull at my clothes in uncomfortable ways.

She didn’t teach me to avoid bathing suits or beaches.

She didn’t teach me to ask questions like, “does my butt look big in these jeans?” Or, “does this accentuate my hips?” Or, “does this shirt show my gut?”

No, my Mama didn’t teach me any of that.

My mama never talked about, or motioned, or gestured how she felt about her body. EVER.

I grew up thinking and feeling comfortable in my body about my body. It wasn’t until I was older when I realized how unique this was. And I don’t get any credit. I give it all to my Mama.

And you know what, Mamas out there, that’s how simple it is to raise a girl who is comfortable with her body – Be comfortable with yours.

Business · Soul thoughts · Time

Are you ready?

Are you getting ready for your big moment or are you still planning on it coming? There’s a big difference.

While on a call with my mentor recently, she said, “Are you ready, Amy? The money will be there, that shouldn’t be a concern at all. You’ve got to BE READY!” Me, my mind, my knowledge, my skills, my character, me. I need to be ready. And I need to be busy about being ready for that now.

Be busy with your goals and dreams as if they’re imminent.

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It happened. It really happened.

My microwave popped an absolutely perfect bag of popcorn leaving no kernel unpopped.

What?? No stray kernels hitting the bottom of my bowl? No. Not one.

This sensor on my microwave is nearly magical in my world now. (Nevermind the fruit that I baked to the point of shriveled and thought I was thawing it a week ago. It has risen to new heights.)

Life isn’t perfect pretty much ever, but when it happens, and every so often you’ll have that perfect moment, take it all in.