Soul thoughts

A tribute to stutterers

I’m fascinated with stuttering.

Stuttering – when people repeat, draw out, not complete, or skip words or sounds without meaning to. They say it happens when the brain is not able to send and receive messages in the normal way.

How beautiful.

How beautiful that the man or woman isn’t condemned to silence. How beautiful the strength of someone who knowingly stutters and pushes through anyway. They fight for connection, communication and understanding more than we will ever know.

How beautiful.

The next time you’re in the presence of someone stuttering, give them an unhurried safe space to communicate.

And maybe, just maybe, stuttering is part of our world to help us slow down and hear things we may otherwise miss in normal conversation.

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Soul thoughts

The people at my table

I have a round table with 12 chairs, filled or waiting to be filled by the most important and dynamic people with whom I want to share every meal.

At breakfast we’ll share our aspirations for the day and offer encouragement. We’ll prepare for courageous leaps and interactions to come.

At lunch we’ll openly talk of our struggles and tough decisions. We’ll discuss ways to mend what’s tearing, and fix what’s broken.

At dinner we’ll unload our burdens and relish our victories. We’ll bearing each other’s burdens and celebrate wins with utmost purity. We’ll reflect and wonder on courses not taken. We’ll muse at the unexpected, and chuckle at our mistakes.

By the fireside we’ll settle into random stories, lessons learned, honest rebukes and larger than life dreams of the future.

Have you thought about who you want at your table? What will you talk about at lunch?

Character

Fast Listener

That’s the best way I can describe her – a fast listener.

She was fully engaged in the conversation, excited, talking fast, and in fact, so hungry for more info that when I was half way through answering one of her questions (enough for her to understand my answer) she was asking the next question.

Listening isn’t about understanding just enough to move on to the next thought or question. True listening gives space to the person talking and acknowledges the value you have on what they are saying, in whatever way they choose to say it, regardless of how many words it takes to deliver.

(I’m really not that long and drawn out. Honest!)

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Celebrating similarities

When we first meet someone, we love to discover similarities. We hope we’ve traveled through the town they grew up in, like the same desserts, and enjoy similar entertainment. Exciting!

Our conversation turns to differences as we clock in years to the relationship. Since there are more differences than similarities, this gives more to talk about over a longer period of time. Also, differences create interesting conversations, whereas similarities produce happy conversations.

My husband and I were rehearsing our similarities the other night, something we rarely do. What fun!

Differences are great and should be understood and celebrated, but don’t get too far from the similarities…it’s what first ignited the relationship or friendship at the start.

 

Just for the heck of it · Time

Non-fiction readers

I’ve noticed a direct correlation between my conversation and time reading. My conversation tends to be about ideas the more I read. My focus and conversation switch to events and people when I’m not I’m not in a good read.

I intuitively recognize a non-fiction reader almost the second we’re introduced. Ah yes, they’re talking about ideas, open to new perspectives, and exchange questions to understand a different opinions.